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Some things that are bothering me
Jan. 20th, 2013 04:57 amFirstly:
I ran across an article today for kicks that was talking about why men might walk away from a woman who has slept with dozens of men. Of course the most interesting part of the article was scrolling down to the bottom for the comments.
Most of the comments from women were basically, "this is chauvinistic bullshit. you can't hold us to standards you don't abide by."
Mkay. I mean, seriously - 95% of the women that responded in the comment section spoke as though it was self-evident that men that slept around were considered "studs." and that all men slept around, so no man could possibly hold it against a woman for being promiscuous.
First of all, there's no fucking way you can claim that a man who has slept with numerous women is a stud. If nothing else, he's probably a heartless bastard who has HURT and DAMAGED numerous women in his life all for the sake of his own insatiable libido and complete emotional dissociation on the level of sociopathy. PUA would call him an "alpha", to me, he's a fucking loser with serious problems. He's almost certainly missed out on some of the most important aspects of life, you know, a committed relationship, with emotional and mental and physical fulfillment/connection. I would much rather be single than not have that in my interaction with women. Different strokes for different folks, but be mindful that if you're gonna sleep around, find people who /specifically want to do that/ and don't /pair up with those who think it's leading to a relationship./ Beyond that, eventually he'll probably end up paying child support, and that definitely ruins development of a decent lifestyle. But that's besides the point.
These women also self-proclaimed themselves as feminists, and one even went on a rampage touting "Sex at Dawn" which is a book Kristie told me to pick up at some point (apparently it's about why monogamy isn't what we're supposed to be doing as human beings. Huh. Isn't that funny.) More or less, I think thinking that monogamy isn't what humans are supposed to be doing is essentially blatant hedonistic rubbish designed for brainwashed westerners who are addicted to instant gratification and maximum pleasure in life, porno, etc, no matter the source. Whatever. I respect ancient and modern spirituality too much to look at it this way, but to each their own.
The point is, I don't fucking get it. I don't fucking GET why so many self-proclaimed feminists are saying that ALL MEN are this way or that way. It's that kind of fucking over generalization that FEMINISM HATED for men to do. Not only that, but I can only think that the women acting like it's wrong for men to hold it against them if they've slept with fifty guys in fifteen years, are the ones who DID THIS and they don't want to feel devalued because of it. Probably because in their fucked up mind (like the kind of mind a fucking porno star probably has) having sex with all of these men ENHANCED their value.
Fuck you and your values, you fucking slut! You have ZERO value in my world. Accept that you essentially entered the world of polygamy, and /stay there/. I know and respect people who are a part of that world and that's fine for them, but it isn't for me! Don't expect men who have showed sexual restraint in their life to want to be with you! Because at the rate of speed you've gone through them, it's very likely you can't offer real commitment anyway!
Furthermore, many of these "feminist" women actually said that /men who felt promiscuous women were not relationship material/ also said that /men who felt this way were "weak" males who probably will never find a partner anyway./ Okay, that's fucking it! How the fuck can an educated feminist POSSIBLY make a fucking comment like that? Fuck you! To add insult to injury, some men said the same exact thing, supporting this whole concept that the more people you sleep with, SELF EVIDENTLY, it MAKES YOU MORE VALUABLE. Bull. Fucking. Shit. It's this kind of wanton ignorance that makes me want to put a bullet in my brain.
If women actually by and large perceive men as either "weak" or "strong" based solely on this kind of rubbish, I'm not sure I really want to fucking date any of you, how about that? Why can't I just be a fucking unique person with my unique way of seeing/doing things, why does there have to be a rank and file, why does there have to be a delusion system of value?
Sometimes I feel that reading this kind of tripe only serves to make things worse for me. I think in the future, I would much rather limit my reading material to classics and just go off of my own experience in life, and those that I trust.
Secondly:
I came across another article about "Why women don't like the PUA community." Okay, interesting read and all. Some of the comments were interesting as well.
A lot of men had a perspective similar to my own, which is, the reason "game" has come into existence and proclaimed itself as a kind of science is because women take no real responsibility in the dating game. By and large women don't approach men with the intention of developing friendship OR a relationship. Yes there are exceptions. No, I haven't met them. I have always had to initiate with women, even since I was a teenager. Maybe one or two exceptions at the Rink, and that was a long time ago, when I was a Goth and "goth culture" has different "rules." Partly why /I fucking miss it./
But these comments shed light on a familiar problem for me, which is a complete lack of input from women i interact with for romantic interests. They never talk about themselves. They never want to add "value" to the conversation. It's like they expect me to keep going...and going...and going...to avoid being judged themselves, so they can solely judge me...as if they have all the power? I just can't stand it anymore. It really makes me not want to talk to them whatsoever anymore, honest to God.
I ran across an article today for kicks that was talking about why men might walk away from a woman who has slept with dozens of men. Of course the most interesting part of the article was scrolling down to the bottom for the comments.
Most of the comments from women were basically, "this is chauvinistic bullshit. you can't hold us to standards you don't abide by."
Mkay. I mean, seriously - 95% of the women that responded in the comment section spoke as though it was self-evident that men that slept around were considered "studs." and that all men slept around, so no man could possibly hold it against a woman for being promiscuous.
First of all, there's no fucking way you can claim that a man who has slept with numerous women is a stud. If nothing else, he's probably a heartless bastard who has HURT and DAMAGED numerous women in his life all for the sake of his own insatiable libido and complete emotional dissociation on the level of sociopathy. PUA would call him an "alpha", to me, he's a fucking loser with serious problems. He's almost certainly missed out on some of the most important aspects of life, you know, a committed relationship, with emotional and mental and physical fulfillment/connection. I would much rather be single than not have that in my interaction with women. Different strokes for different folks, but be mindful that if you're gonna sleep around, find people who /specifically want to do that/ and don't /pair up with those who think it's leading to a relationship./ Beyond that, eventually he'll probably end up paying child support, and that definitely ruins development of a decent lifestyle. But that's besides the point.
These women also self-proclaimed themselves as feminists, and one even went on a rampage touting "Sex at Dawn" which is a book Kristie told me to pick up at some point (apparently it's about why monogamy isn't what we're supposed to be doing as human beings. Huh. Isn't that funny.) More or less, I think thinking that monogamy isn't what humans are supposed to be doing is essentially blatant hedonistic rubbish designed for brainwashed westerners who are addicted to instant gratification and maximum pleasure in life, porno, etc, no matter the source. Whatever. I respect ancient and modern spirituality too much to look at it this way, but to each their own.
The point is, I don't fucking get it. I don't fucking GET why so many self-proclaimed feminists are saying that ALL MEN are this way or that way. It's that kind of fucking over generalization that FEMINISM HATED for men to do. Not only that, but I can only think that the women acting like it's wrong for men to hold it against them if they've slept with fifty guys in fifteen years, are the ones who DID THIS and they don't want to feel devalued because of it. Probably because in their fucked up mind (like the kind of mind a fucking porno star probably has) having sex with all of these men ENHANCED their value.
Fuck you and your values, you fucking slut! You have ZERO value in my world. Accept that you essentially entered the world of polygamy, and /stay there/. I know and respect people who are a part of that world and that's fine for them, but it isn't for me! Don't expect men who have showed sexual restraint in their life to want to be with you! Because at the rate of speed you've gone through them, it's very likely you can't offer real commitment anyway!
Furthermore, many of these "feminist" women actually said that /men who felt promiscuous women were not relationship material/ also said that /men who felt this way were "weak" males who probably will never find a partner anyway./ Okay, that's fucking it! How the fuck can an educated feminist POSSIBLY make a fucking comment like that? Fuck you! To add insult to injury, some men said the same exact thing, supporting this whole concept that the more people you sleep with, SELF EVIDENTLY, it MAKES YOU MORE VALUABLE. Bull. Fucking. Shit. It's this kind of wanton ignorance that makes me want to put a bullet in my brain.
If women actually by and large perceive men as either "weak" or "strong" based solely on this kind of rubbish, I'm not sure I really want to fucking date any of you, how about that? Why can't I just be a fucking unique person with my unique way of seeing/doing things, why does there have to be a rank and file, why does there have to be a delusion system of value?
Sometimes I feel that reading this kind of tripe only serves to make things worse for me. I think in the future, I would much rather limit my reading material to classics and just go off of my own experience in life, and those that I trust.
Secondly:
I came across another article about "Why women don't like the PUA community." Okay, interesting read and all. Some of the comments were interesting as well.
A lot of men had a perspective similar to my own, which is, the reason "game" has come into existence and proclaimed itself as a kind of science is because women take no real responsibility in the dating game. By and large women don't approach men with the intention of developing friendship OR a relationship. Yes there are exceptions. No, I haven't met them. I have always had to initiate with women, even since I was a teenager. Maybe one or two exceptions at the Rink, and that was a long time ago, when I was a Goth and "goth culture" has different "rules." Partly why /I fucking miss it./
But these comments shed light on a familiar problem for me, which is a complete lack of input from women i interact with for romantic interests. They never talk about themselves. They never want to add "value" to the conversation. It's like they expect me to keep going...and going...and going...to avoid being judged themselves, so they can solely judge me...as if they have all the power? I just can't stand it anymore. It really makes me not want to talk to them whatsoever anymore, honest to God.
