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Nov. 28th, 2009 03:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sathorhttp://www.womensinfidelity.com/
I might buy this.
I read through it, and I think it's not just applicable to women at all. It's applicable to men as well. And you know what? My ex-fiancee fit the descriptions perfectly. I know how she felt, when she did actually open up to me. I know she claimed illness after problem after whatever to try and justify what was going on. I know she seemed to think Dale was her soul mate, and look what happened? She moved on to get that high again.
You know what? I think drug abusers would be -way- more likely to be cheaters. The reason? Because they -already desire- highs, and know what that desire is like, and more importantly, actively seek to satiate it. You could generalize that to the chemical high induced by the beginning of a relationship and romantic relations. Once that is over...guess what? Gotta find the next high.
Drug abusers don't make good partners. I think I've figured that out.
I'm glad I'm done with drugs. Except for maybe LSD and Mushrooms, on the ultra-rare, no-more-than-once-a-year occasion and under the correct circumstances.
I doubt I'll ever be drunk again in my entire life as well.
I might buy this.
I read through it, and I think it's not just applicable to women at all. It's applicable to men as well. And you know what? My ex-fiancee fit the descriptions perfectly. I know how she felt, when she did actually open up to me. I know she claimed illness after problem after whatever to try and justify what was going on. I know she seemed to think Dale was her soul mate, and look what happened? She moved on to get that high again.
You know what? I think drug abusers would be -way- more likely to be cheaters. The reason? Because they -already desire- highs, and know what that desire is like, and more importantly, actively seek to satiate it. You could generalize that to the chemical high induced by the beginning of a relationship and romantic relations. Once that is over...guess what? Gotta find the next high.
Drug abusers don't make good partners. I think I've figured that out.
I'm glad I'm done with drugs. Except for maybe LSD and Mushrooms, on the ultra-rare, no-more-than-once-a-year occasion and under the correct circumstances.
I doubt I'll ever be drunk again in my entire life as well.
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Date: 2009-12-01 07:01 am (UTC)Oh and also... I hope you are distinguishing the line between drug users and abusers. Take smoking cigarettes. Where is the line? A pack a day perhaps? A half? That would be drug abuse to me although probably not commonly seen as. It's a wavering fine line that's for sure.
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Date: 2009-12-01 09:51 am (UTC)Marijuana is a hallucinogen that has a tendency to be addictive, I can make no arguments for it's "benefits" any longer. It's a drug, an escape. If it's used as a kind of past time, it may not cause harm. It is when it is used as something more than that - then, it will almost certainly cause harm. It can -waste- valuable time. For me, that makes it something not worthwhile any longer.
If you mean you want to call me a "douche" for the rest of it - well, I don't see how this woman's research is bad, somehow. She's trying to explain why we're seeing such high numbers of infidelity in our society. I think it's a pretty serious issue, myself, and I think it's worth it to note that my last ex isn't the only one I've seen continue this rinse and repeat pattern that the woman is writing this book on.
Explain to me, how suddenly and without warning, every woman that ever claimed to love me started hating me? That's a load of bullshit. People chock this up to "people change" or "people decide they want something different." There's more to it than that. They have connected love to something that can -change-. -LOVE- is not something that changes, it is something that -you- define yourself. Love for me is the only thing that matters, and the only thing that is true. Apparently, love to some others is something that is attached to all manner of contingency. It is these people who are ill.